Editor in Chief: Moh. Reza Huwaida Tuesday, November 13th, 2018

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The practice of Arrange Marriages: Should the Parents Decide?

Dear Editor,
In this twenty first century, some people strongly believe in love at first sight, while others believe it takes time to love someone. In life having a companion is a very import factor in human's life. But it's hard to form a god relationship right when you meet that person. It obviously takes time, patience and trust to love that person and positively is sure it will last.

However, if this relationship goes well, it will eventually end in marriage. Some cultures in the world. However, in Asian Countries mostly parents don't allow their children to meet that special someone on their own. So you ask then how would they meet someone that they would love and get married to. This brings me to the tradition of arranged marriages.

Arranged marriages have been around in parts of the Middle East, especially in Afghanistan, as long as the institution of marriage itself. In the arranged world, they say marriage comes first and love later. The question is what is an arranged marriage? Arranged marriages for the previous generations were arranged solely by the parents. The boy or girl probably wouldn't even see each other before the wedding, depending on the parents. The parents by word of mouth from a friend or relative would hear of someone's son or daughter.

Than they would go to the family to arrange them get married. And of course in Afghanistan, it has been a long practice, while the partners have never seen each others; parents had the full authorities to arrange their mirage without discussing with the boy and girl. But today, it creates problem by such practice. The number of divorces got risen because the girl or the body don't like each other and aren't happy from the life they spend with each other. Therefore, the parents shouldn't exercise such practice without discussing with both sides.
Best Regards
Saira Saba
Dasht-e- Barchi, Kabul